How I became more intentional with my relationships
I take what I learned with my sister into every one of my relationships.
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My sister and I have always been close and each otherās support system through our family and life challenges. ā£
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Like all sisters do, of course we argued and clashed but nothing that we couldnāt overcome the same day. ā£
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One day in our 20s, we fought so bad because we triggered each other and couldnāt effectively communicate or understand each other. ā£Our fight or flight mode was activated constantly.
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ā¶ļø The next morning we had a conversation that changed everything. We validated each other and promised each other we would never fight like that again and we havenāt. ā£
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āØ We both were living in trauma responses and taking it out on the one person that was our safe space. ā£
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I share the story with people often and I share this with you because it is so common in relationships especially when you feel safe with that person. Conflict can be prevented by acknowledging the emotions and responding differently. Self-awareness and validation.