Expectations

“Expectation feeds frustration as its simply an illusive form of control by attempting to grip the reins that aren’t ours to hold.

Breathe. Release. Let go. Allow your life to naturally and quietly unfold.” Victoria Erickson.

I have realized that when I am harboring negative emotions around circumstances or the relationships I have in my life, I need to re-evaluate my expectations around them. I think it is important to have expectations with certain things in life because you deserve to have standards. Its when the outcome does not meet your expectations that is the concern. I have began to shift my expectations to minimize my disappointment. I have also learned to keep an open mind. People and life can surprise you. Appreciating how life naturally turns out can help you shift your mindset from “I am disappointed” to “I appreciate how this turned out.” You might not get to that mindset right away. Through processing you can release the expectation you had for the outcome.

There is an importance in meeting you, meeting others, and meeting the situation where it is at. Be open to however things are meant to be and take it for what it is. If someone is not meeting your expectations, do not try and control it or make it what it is not. When you force the outcome you want- you are not truly receiving it. Doesn’t it feel amazing to have a loved one put in effort naturally and truly embody what you have in mind for that relationship? Doesn’t it feel good to put in hard work and get the job that is meant for you?

The things that are meant for you will never lose you. The right people will be there, the right opportunities will be there, and the right timing will be there. Release the need to control the outcome or what you think needs to happen for you to be happy and you will see that you will find more peace and appreciation in knowing there is no attachment to the outcome. Accepting what is and not what you think it should be can be a powerful perspective to increase peace of mind.